Autism is widely accepted as a spectrum - from those who are severely 'disabled' by it, to those for whom it is only an annoyance. Likewise, we accept gender as a spectrum.
So if it's not okay to tell someone they're 'not actually a boy/girl/etc', how is it acceptable to tell someone they're 'not actually autistic' ?
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