NoΓ«lle the 8-Bitπ³οΈβππ
It is REALLY HARD to not think of myself in terms of what I can do. And when I run across someone who can do everything I care about better than I can, it's REALLY HARD for me to not think that it would just be better if I stepped aside and didn't bother anymore.
I KNEW I should have immediately followed up posting this toot by muting responses to it.
If I could convince Mastodon at large of only one thing, it would be this:
if you see someone complaining, DO NOT give them advice.
If someone ASKS for advice, offer it.
But 90% of the time, someone complaining is just venting. They're not telling you the whole story, and they're not receptive to being given advice, because in that mental state, your "good-natured advice" is their "HERE'S HOW YOU'RE DOING THIS WRONG".
Do not respond with advice unless it's asked for.
@noelle I think you're already upset when you posted this, so I'm thinking twice whether I should reply thisβ but I disagree. Some people might really need help, in a shit situation atm, confused, in need of some company and could've been better off if someone at least gave them advice, even if it doesn't solve the actual problem. Some people sucks at asking for help or at communicating.
@jaan_paul @noelle Yes, this is my experience... If someone is venting they should say so. It is difficult to know their intentions otherwise. If not they are inviting people to discuss.
I have seen people venting.. then get upset because no answers.
If you post something publicly you should also be prepared to talk about it. If not... then just say so.
